While Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year to some people, others might dread it because they don’t have anyone to spend it with. If you relate to the latter, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be miserable. So let me show you how you can find joy in solitude this Holiday Season.
Find the Silver Tinsel Lining
Many people struggle to make the Holiday Season live up to their expectations; the media sells us the perfect image of a happy family, a pile of presents and snowy weather. However, this is rarely the reality. Additionally, while having loved ones to spend this special time with sounds great, Christmas often means extra work: cooking, cleaning, and running errands mean many can’t wait for it to end so they can finally put their feet up. If you’re going to be on your own, it’s helpful to look on the bright side of things.
Take Advantage of the Internet
Does being alone on Christmas Eve still sound like the most depressing scenario? You can always take advantage of modern technology and turn to an online forum or Facebook group to connect with people like you. No matter where they are in the world, you can schedule a video call and stay social. You will not only fight off feeling lonely, but it might also help you put things into perspective. For example, some people might have recently lost a family member or don’t get on well with anyone in their family – valid reasons to prioritise their mental health this year instead. Who knows, they may appreciate the more distant comfort.
Nothing feeds your soul like exploring new places. If you’re dreading Christmas, it would be a good idea to replace fear with excitement and plan a trip somewhere abroad. Since you don’t have to buy any presents or decorations you can use the money to treat yourself to an adventure. You’ll hopefully get to meet other people who are dealing with similar circumstances and immerse yourself in a different culture, which will be a great distraction.
Do Something you Enjoy
Many people don’t have the luxury of having a break during Christmas. There always seems to be something needing doing around the house or someone to catch up with who you haven’t seen in too long. One advantage of being a loner is having more time on your hands to do something fun, like being creative or trying new things.
It’s also important to show love towards yourself. After all, this is what makes Christmas so magical, and even having a big family doesn’t always mean it’s loving. You can express love towards yourself by practising self-care. This time for yourself could be anything that promotes your well-being. For example, you can cook yourself your favourite meal, have a hot bath or binge-watch a TV series.
Venture into Volunteering
Christmas is a tough time for elderlies who are alone at care homes. Keeping them company is a great way to give back to the community. Volunteering can also benefit your mental health, giving you a sense of purpose, making you feel happier and increasing empathy. It’s also another way to spread that extra joy.
Stay Off Social Media
Seeing photos of families and Christmas decorations is the last thing you need when you’re alone during the holidays. So instead, try to spend less time on social media., Even better, you can uninstall the apps and put your phone away. A digital detox can teach you how to be present in the moment and appreciate little things. Some time exclusively to yourself will boost your mood and help you survive this holiday season without having a “wee” mental breakdown.
Expressing gratitude is an effective way to shift your perspective and increase your mood. Start practising today by writing down what you’re grateful for every morning, such as sunny weather, your dog, or your health.